People who suffer with anxiety are having a constant battle because, for them, anxiety is one of those things that is ever present. We have our good days and we have our bad days. When we have those bad days, we look for comfort from those who are closest to us.

　　遭受焦虑之苦的人正在不断的战斗,因为对他们来说,焦虑曾经是他们的礼物之一。我们有过美好的日子,我们有坏的日子。当我们处在那些糟糕的日子时,我们向那些最接近我们的人们寻找安慰。

　　Here are some of the things we want the people we love to say to us when we feel anxious:

　　有些事情我们想让我们爱的人在我们感觉焦虑的对我们说：

　　1.If you can go, that’s great- but if you can’t, that’s okay too.

　　如果你能去，那很好，但是如果你不能，那也还好

　　We don’t like feeling forced into anything. It makes the anxiety worse. We like having the option to back out if we don’t feel right, which helps us to feel less trapped. It calms us down knowing that we can choose whether or not we want to do something.

　　我们不喜欢感觉被迫做什么。它使焦虑更糟。我们喜欢如果感觉不对还有退回的选择,这有助于我们感觉到更少的迷惑。它使我们镇定下来知道我们可以选择想要做些什么。

　　2.Take your time.

　　慢慢来

　　Our biggest fear is that we are wasting your time. We constantly feel like we are inconveniencing everyone around us by feeling the way we do. When you let us know that time is not an issue, we find it easier to calm down as we don’t have that added worry.

　　我们最大的恐惧是,我们正在浪费你的时间。我们经常感觉给我们周围的每一个人的感觉。当你让我们知道时间不是一个问题,我们发现那更容易平静下来,因为我们没有那么担心。

　　3.We are proud of you for doing this.

　　我们因为你做的而感到骄傲

　　Certain things that may seem simple can require a lot of thought and energy for us to accomplish. When we do things that may seem insignificant to you, it might be a big deal for us. We like to hear that you are proud of us when we try our best to do things that we find challenging. It lets us know that you understand how difficult it was for us to persevere.

　　某些事情可能看起来简单其实需要大量的思考和精力完成。当我们做的事情可能也许对你来说看起来微不足道,它可能对我们来说是一个大问题。当我们发现挑战并尽力克服时我们喜欢听你为我们而感到骄傲。它让我们知道，你明白对于我们来说它完成起来是多么困难。

　　4.I understand it’s something that you can’t control.

　　我明白有些事情你无法控制

　　The worst thing we can hear is someone telling us to control ourselves and get over it. We want people around us to acknowledge that we cannot control the anxiety when it shows up, or how intense it gets. It makes us feel at ease knowing that you understand.

　　我们可以听到的最糟糕的事情是有人告诉我们去控制自己并克服它。我们希望周围的人知道当焦虑出现时,或有变得强烈时我们不能控制它。知道你理解，让我们感到舒适自在。

　　5.I know that you are trying.

　　我知道你正在尝试

　　We like knowing that you understand that we are trying. Sometimes we feel like people think that we are lazy or we aren’t trying. It’s nice to know that people really understand that we are persevering, despite it not being easy for us.

　　我们好像知道，你明白我们正在努力。有时我们觉得人们认为我们懒惰或不努力。很高兴知道有人真正理解,我们正在坚持,尽管它对我们来说不容易。

　　6.What can I do to make you feel better?

　　我做什么能让你感觉好一点

　　When we start feeling anxious, it helps if you ask us what you can do to help. Most of the time we just have to sit there and wait for the anxiety to pass or go get some fresh air. We appreciate it when you ask because it makes us feel like you care about what we are going through.

　　当我们开始感到焦虑,如果你能告诉我们可以做些什么，是对我们有帮助的。大多数时候我们不得不坐在那里,等待着焦虑度过或去呼吸一些新鲜空气。我们感谢它当你说因为它让我们感觉你关心我们正在经历什么。

　　7.You’re fine, everything’s fine.

　　你很好，一切都很好

　　We like to be reassured that everything around us isn’t falling apart.

　　When our anxiety comes along, we can’t always pinpoint why it showed up.

　　Sometimes we like being reminded that nothing terrible is going on.

　　看到我们周围的一切不是分崩离析，我们非常放心。当我们的焦虑出现时,我们不能总是找出为什么它出现了。有时我们喜欢被提醒,没有什么可怕的。

　　8.Let’s go get some fresh air.

　　让我们出去呼吸一些新鲜空气

　　This is the best thing that you can say to us when we are anxious. Nothing helps anxiety more than being in an open area with fresh air. We are able to feel less trapped and we are given space to sort through our emotions.

　　当我们感到焦虑的时候，这是你们可以说的最好的事了。没有什么比在一个开放的区域里呼吸新鲜空气更能帮助缓解焦虑了。我们感觉不到那么困难,我们给出了空间来整理我们的情绪。

　　9.You’re not bothering us at all.

　　你们一点也没有烦扰我们

　　This ties into how we feel like we are wasting people’s time. We hate feeling like a burden when we are out with friends and family. It reassures us when you tell us that we aren’t troubling you when we start to feel anxious.

　　这关系到我们如何感觉我们正在浪费人们的时间。当我们与朋友和家人出去时，我们讨厌感觉自己像一个负担,。当我们开始感到焦虑时，当你告诉我们不会影响你的时候我们才感到安心。

　　10.Let’s sort through this together.

　　让我们一起分类整理

　　Sometimes it feels good to talk through it. It feels reassuring when you sit with us and talk through what is worrying us, potentially allowing us to figure out what prompted the anxiety to intensify.This can help to reduce our feelings of fear, apprehension, and panic. It also feels great to let it all out with someone you love.

　　有时候讨论它感觉很好。当你坐在我们旁边并谈论什么困扰着我们,允许我们去找出什么促使焦虑加剧。这可以帮助我们减少恐惧、忧惧、恐慌的感觉。让它与你爱的人一起消失也感觉很好。